I’m in a relation-NOT with my non

Well, some how I have done it again! I have found myself another non relationship. What I like to call a relation-NOT. I started hanging out with this new guy randomly and we quickly found ourselves hanging out with each other everyday. I mean things progressed quickly! We spent every day and every night for 2 months!!! If that’s not on a speedtrack to a relationship I don’t know what it is. Not to mention that we waited a while to sleep together. We have definitely been having some fun, that I cannot deny. I really like spending time with him and so for a while I have let go the fact that we hadn’t had the “talk”. Though I’m not gonna lie, just about every drunken moment there were discussions. Though we both remember them going differently than the other remembers. Damn you alcohol! Anyways, closing in on going on three months I decide to say something and yes alcohol was involved, but not as much as before. Haha. My non decides to tell me that he likes what we have going, but just isn’t ready for a girlfriend. But by any means we are not friends with benefits and doesn’t want us to date other people, and be sleeping in the same bed together. WTF?! Let’s break this down a bit…

I Like what we have going, but I don’t want a girlfriend right now.
Ok. Kinda understood, but that’s kind of what I am. I can deal with not being called your girlfriend right now, but if there is no possibility of it in the future why bother. I’m not one of those that needs a label, but I’m not going to run around in my wheel just to end up where I have been. If this isn’t going to be more than that you need to let me out of this cage and roam. Haha. You love my analogies I know! Which brings us to the next segment…

We are not friends with benefits.
Yes we are! What else would you call this?! Are you delusional?! We spend every day/night together. I share my bed with you. We go places, run errands and hang out with each others friends. We talk on the phone every day going over the days plan…but I’m not your girlfiend so….yeah, that’s pretty much what it is. What’s your definition?

I don’t want to date other people and be sleeping in the same bed together.
Sooooo…huh? I should say too, that this one has changed his mind a few times on this. During one of the “talks” my non told me that he thinks I should keep dating, just don’t sleep with anyone. What??? You like me, but you want me to date other people??! He said that he wanted me to get it out of my system so that later on, further into our relation-NOT, I wouldn’t wonder or decide to do it then. Made sense at the time I guess. Then I got to thinking…wait if you really like me, why would you share me in any way?! So then I get the most recent response of I don’t want to date other people…ok, well in my world that means exclusive. Which would make me your girlfriend. Does it not?
***Breaking News: This just in. Captain Pants can no longer date other guys, but she is NOT in a relationsh….::announcer turns to the studio, “this doesn’t make any sense. There must be a typo.”***

I would like to say that this has been brought to you by a “He’s Just Not That Into You” moment, but I tried to end things the other day and he wouldn’t let me!!! He kept asking why and didn’t understand my side fully. I never said the non issue was going to work for me. I don’t come off as that kind of girl. He asked why we couldn’t just let things be and I said I could if I knew there was a possibility of moving ahead in the future and I can tell you he won’t be where I am in my life today, a few years down the road. And goodness knows where my head will be then. It’s kind of like, why bang my head repeatedly against a wall, if the wall is never going to move?! It was like breaking up with someone and we aren’t even together. We were NEVER together and he keeps saying that I dumped him! Seriuosly?! FTW!

Update: If you wanna date me and I’m interested in dating you…I’m gonna do it. I’m not waiting around for this shit!

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